I am fortunate enough to live in a metropolitan area where I actually had a choice in reproductive endocrinologist offices. I realize not everyone has that kind of choice and that I am very lucky to have had the opportunity to seek assistance from both for different reasons. But when it came down to choosing which one to stick with for my treatment, after some investigations it became pretty clear.
There are two clinics each within 25-30 minutes of my home, and the only ones available for a 50 mile radius. Fertility Clinic A has been in the area for 25 years, has one doctor and two physician assistants. Fertility Clinic B has been in the area for maybe 15 years and is one of three locations in the state. Clinic B also has a spa associated with it that includes services such as acupuncture, yoga and other exercise programs, massage, nail care, waxing – basically the works. My friend B. actually used Clinic B because of their suite of services and their locations, which allowed her to travel to her home and still receive the same level of care with familiar faces. Clinic B was my first introduction to fertility clinics by way of B., who wanted to sign up for yoga classes together.
Now, if you are lucky enough to have a choice in clinics or doctors, you can always start the decision making process by looking up the statistics on the Society for Artificial Reproductive Technology’s website, which publishes IVF success rates for every clinic in the country. But numbers don’t always tell the whole story. Some clinics might turn you away if they deem you too high risk, which might offset their numbers. And personally I like percentages rather than wholesale figures. For instance, Clinic B’s SART report shows over 1500 attempted IVF cycles in 2010 while Clinic A had about 200 IVF cycles reported in that same timeframe. No doubt a lot of this is attributed to the largess of Clinic B, with three locations and at least one or two doctors at each. Maybe the smaller number of Clinic A would make people feel nervous – do they have enough experience to really help me (even though they’ve been around for 25 years)? So consider the percentages: of Clinic A’s 75 IVF cycles in women less than 35 years of age, 53% resulted in a pregnancy. Clinic B had a whopping 652 IVF cycles for women younger than 35, but only a 36% pregnancy success rate. There’s much more detailed information on the SART website about these numbers, so be sure to check it out. Unfortunately, the numbers only detail IVF procedure success, not other therapies such as IUI or medicinal treatments. It still left me with a little bit of uncertainty as to who to pick.
I decided to try some of the alternative medicine and spa services available through Clinic B, which by the way is a spa open to the public. I signed up for a month of yoga for fertility classes last summer, took a free fertility nutrition workshop, and enrolled in a “ladies’ night” event where you could sample 4 different mini-spa services in one night. The yoga was probably what you’d expect a yoga for fertility class to be – easy, relaxing, not very strenuous at all and probably couldn’t count as bona fide exercise. The nutrition workshop was kind of interesting but a little too on the hippy-side for my taste (the instructor brought hemp pesto to try with almond flour crackers as an example of one of her recipes), and she kind of started by saying that while we could base our nutrition on the Chinese medicinal tables and our own idea of our symptoms, the better way is to meet with an acupuncturist to get an accurate idea of issues with your chi. I get it, it was a free class, you’d probably expect them to sell you on something. But it was the ladies’ night’s atmosphere that led me to really shy away from the place. I paid $60 for what I thought was going to be 2 hours of services, and because of the disorganization turned into 3 hours. The first part was meditation, where about 20 of us (there were about 60 women total) sat with a therapist who led us through guided meditation. But then she asked us to share “Who came to meet you in the garden?” I felt extremely uncomfortable sharing my personal experiences. Next up was a chair massage, which I would do again with the same masseuse in a heartbeat, and was the most genuine part of the whole experience. Then it was time for acupuncture – that was really the reason why I went, to see what it was all about. The acupuncturist asked, “Any pain? What are you working on today?” “Well, I’ve been trying to get pregnant…” And after telling him an abbreviated story, he essentially said, “Clomid doesn’t work, acupuncture does, I’ll get you some handouts and my card.” Having just started the clomid that left me with little hope and wasn’t the reaction I expected from someone who presumably gets his business from the clinic downstairs. The night ended with a mini-facial (“I would recommend you make an appointment for the cranberry scrub”), a paraffin hand wax and “makeover” which was really just getting matched with a Jane Iredale (all natural) foundation and lipstick.
If you ever have the opportunity to sample services, even peripheral services like these that might be offered by your clinic, or a support group – go ahead and give them a shot before making your final decision.
While Clinic A has none of these fancy offerings, I was afraid of going to Clinic B and having them sell me on the services as part of my treatment plan. The spa at Clinic B was already trying to sell me tons of products (they really looked at me funny when I didn’t buy anything in the gift shop); what would their medical staff be like? I know B. saw an acupuncturist regularly, and at $60 a rip I felt like it would be a financial drain (“the more often you go, the better it works”).
It turns out there were a few more philosophical and humbling differences between the two clinics as well. Clinic B’s entire building smells good. It smells like the spa, like sugar and flowers and fruit and all kinds of other yumminess. The clinic’s waiting room has 12 inch travertine floor tiles (money!), a fireplace, leather couches and recliners, dim lighting, bookshelves and DVD racks (all available for purchase), and a K-cup machine for you to make a nice beverage. Clinic A has tile floors and carpeting, two separate waiting areas (one for the lab and one for your appointments), innocuous magazines to read and tvs tuned to news stations, bright and sunny lighting, and a single-serve coffee maker (not a K-cup) available to use. One significant difference – Clinic A has a fragrance-free philosophy. As fragrances are the #1 cause of VOCs (volatile organic compounds – not good for anyone, especially infertilites and fetuses), no one in their office wears perfume or lotions with fragrance and they ask their patients to do the same. There are no scented candles or air fresheners or nice smelling scrubs in the bathrooms, as there are in Clinic B. For me that was a signal that this place was about business more than appearances, and helped make me feel confident in making that choice.
Sure, there’s lots to be said for patient-doctor relationships too – you just have to feel that it’s right for you, that you’re in good hands. But I also urge you, if you have the capability to choose, to consider reading between the lines of the entire business model before committing yourself, your partner, and your future family to a clinic.