News about what’s next

I realized that over the last year, while I haven’t had much time – or even infertility-related news, considering – to keep up on the blog, that my most popular posts aren’t even the ones having to do with medical conditions. I guess with unicornuate uteruses being rare to begin with there just isn’t a huge demand for information for it. No, instead some of my popular blogs have been product reviews and, strangely enough, about Obamacare. It seems weird to me that of all places on the internet, this website is a popular hit among people wanting to find out whether or not Obamacare covers infertility treatmets. And my initial posting on that was rather vague, given that Obamacare hadn’t been rolled out yet. But now we’re almost approaching one year of Obamacare being available, so it’s time to update the post.

I plan on continuing to provide product reviews and updates. I still have a few more posts to go about my experiences with my now five-month-old, and my new life as a stay-at-home-mom (temporarily!). But my next big focus is going to be delving into more details about Obamacare. I personally don’t know a lot about it, only what I’ve heard about in the news or what friends and family have told me about their experiences with it. And in order for me to really be able to answer the question, “Does Obamacare cover infertility treatments?” I’m going to have to do a lot more learning about it. I am not going to be the expert. But I feel I owe you, the reader – and perhaps you, the person who used Google to find me, you who are new to the land of the infertilite – a little more in the way of navigating the answer. It’s going to take me a while, but I hope to have something substantial by the time I’m through. In the meantime, expect some more reviews and updates from me. Thanks for reading and happy fall!

My 100th post… It’s a girl!

I am proud to announce the birth of my dearest daughter, who proved once again a little uu can go a long way.

Born via c-section and weighing a whopping (for me) 8 lbs 1 oz, 19.5 inches (the exact same length as her brother), my daughter is a beautiful way to celebrate this blog’s 100th post, springtime, Easter, and to give hope to women TTC everywhere.

Her birth was scheduled since the kids are too close together to do a vbac safely (at least according to my doctor) and I scheduled it for the 39th week. No complications with the pregnancy; her growth was normal and on track, so I didn’t have any big restrictions. A great pregnancy for a great little girl!

The woman I’ve warned you about is me

I’ve had lots of curious recent discoveries into the world of infertilite mommyhood that I thought I would have been able to avoid, given my own story and situation.  But as I stared into the face of my sister-in-law as we walked through a children’s consignment sale during her 7th month of pregnancy, I realized that I had become my own worst nightmare.  I was the woman with the horror stories about giving birth.  I was the woman who thought it was better to give you the reality check than the comforting words you need to hear.  And I thought I was doing it all for the right reasons.

As it turns out, my advice is probably best suited for only other infertilites.  Although I was aware that my SIL had been told by her doctor she’d never be able to have kids, I didn’t know why and I never asked.  I knew she was devastated at the time, and as such, was (presumably) really psyched to actually be pregnant given her infertilite status.  She’s a very go-with-the-flow kind of free spirit, so I let her lead the way with questions for most of her pregnancy and I avoided mothering her too much.  I was proud of myself for having gotten this far, knowing that along her pregnancy she had some complications of her own – too much amniotic fluid, the baby grew very large, and she kept getting dehydrated.  So when it came time for some SIL-bonding at the sale, I took the opportunity to make sure she was more prepared than I was for the time of the birth.

This was an unfortunate mistake, however.  Because as it turns out, the advice that I have for someone who is pregnant isn’t really relevant for the majority of moms-to-be.  I had biweekly non-stress tests.  The doctors and midwives joked my baby would glow in the dark I had so many ultrasounds, because he didn’t grow to average size.  And I had a baby in the breech position with no chance of even squeezing out a natural birth.  Add in to the equation a few other factors, like the small size of my baby, my passing out hours after the c-section, my lack of labor pains (and them being back labor pains when I did have them all of two times), and my difficulty with breastfeeding, and you’ve got yourself a nightmare for a new mom-to-be.  Yikes!

So, yes, I told her all of these things…  mostly because she asked and was curious, and wanted to know what all of it was like.  But nearly every statement I said had to be qualified or dismissed with something like, “But that’s just because he was breech,” or “That’s just me, that’s not the normal experience.”  And with every piece of advice I could give, other than stocking up on sanitary pads, I became increasingly aware of how awful I must sound and how unhelpful it really was.  She really had no chance of having half the difficulties I did, so why bother scaring her with them?

Now that she’s had the baby, who was born a week after her due date, she’s remained just as relaxed about motherhood as you could imagine a free spirit being.  She’s had no troubles breastfeeding, her baby was a whopping 9 pounds, and she had to be induced.  After 24 hours of labor that went nowhere, the doctors gave her the option for a c-section and she took it.  Realizing how exhausting it had been for me to recover from that surgery – and mine was blissfully scheduled and relaxed, not preceded by a day of labor – my husband and I waited two full days before visiting in the hospital (unlike the rest of the family).  I don’t see a trace of shell-shock in her face, as I imagine mine was full of, and I keep my mouth shut about the aftermath of giving birth.  I nod as I listen because the first few weeks with a newborn are a universal period of unconditional love and personal sacrifice, and we all can relate to that.

In the meantime, I’ll be keeping my stories to myself until the day comes when someone who truly needs to know, for her own health, asks.  And, of course, to all of you – because you wouldn’t be reading my blog unless you hadn’t already wondered.

Girlfriend’s Guide to Simplify Infertility – Bonus Content

Who doesn’t love a bonus?  Ok, this will be my last promotional post about this –

  • collection-image-525-x-644Infertility Summer Reading List Compilation eBook

Fourteen authors in the Infertility Survival Kit share their inspirational infertility stories to help you navigate your journey with excerpts and chapters from their books to create an exclusive Infertility Summer Reading List eBook Compilation. This is a one of a kind eBook that

allows you to preview these books and get a sense for which book(s) best matches your needs. Check out these books in the Infertility Survival Kit and connect with the authors at #ifbooks where you can tweet the authors and learn more about their journey. Ebook compilation includes an exclusive sampler from the Fertile Kitchen Cookbook including recipes.

  • Infertility Insights – Voices Shared, Lessons Learned eBook

We asked the infertility community through blogs and social media to complete the statement, “I wish I would have known…. about infertility”. These voices in the community show their strength and courage by sharing their powerful lessons learned in an effort to help others on their journey. The eBook includes each person’s link in the Infertility Survival Kit so you may connect to them through their social media, blogs and website. Many of them advocate and support this community with a passion to make a difference on your journey.

  • Three Simple Steps to Setting Boundaries with Your Fertile Friends Guide – Renee Wagenner

This quick guide helps you have that difficult conversation with the person in your life that doesn’t know how to support you on your infertility journey. Three simple steps including how to set boundaries with the “Do Do” list.


  • Three Strategies for Taking Charge of Your Fertility – Russell Davis

The eBook was written to help you grow your family, whether through natural or assisted conception, by introducing you to the power of your mind and what it can achieve for you. You can remove the hidden mental obstacles to having a baby as well as influencing your body to create the best possible outcome.

Available now for purchase from my affiliate link:

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A Girlfriend’s Guide to Simplify Infertility – Exclusive Look at Content Cont.

Rounding out the books included in this ginormous collection:

  • collection-image-525-x-644Infertility Road to Hell and Back – Azelene Williams (18.95)

Infertility Road to Hell and Back is a memoir of Azelene’s Williams’ struggle with infertility. What about when that longed for baby never happens? When you realize that something is wrong and turn to professionals for help. Tests are done; treatments tried without success. Instantly connect with Azelene in her heartfelt infertility story.

  • Annual Premium Membership to My Hopeful Journey’s fertility organizer & Quick Start Guide ($60)

One year premium membership includes our comprehensive web and mobile fertility tracker. Organize your medications, appointments, test results, procedures and natural tracking in one place. Create custom reports from full web version, write in a journal, task list and much more.

What are you waiting for?  Support Hope (I’m an affiliate) and buy now:

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A Girlfriend’s Guide to Simplify Infertility – Exclusive Look at Included Content

 

Continuing our exclusive sneak peek at this amazing $19 collection: collection-image-525-x-644

  • The Truth Behind the Secret Infertility – Fran Meadows ($10.95)

 

The Truth Behind The Secret “Infertility” is a memoir that touches on the honesty of struggling to conceive, filled with raw, deep emotions with a taste of witty humor. Readers will relate to the feelings of another woman opening up about things that many dare to share. This book will make you feel less alone and like you are having a conversation with the Author as you read along. Written to give others hope through their journey you will feel the silence and stigma of infertility lift as you read along with showing the real inner strength of a couple shine through many painful experiences.

 

  • The Modern Girl’s Guide to Natural Fertility – Marni Hotchkiss ($15)

 

Natural fertility in today’s modern world encompasses the foods we eat, our behaviors, and our thoughts. Take a deeper look into how tools/apps as well as the right foods and other holistic approaches can positively impact pregnancy success.

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Announcing an exciting Infertility eBook Collection – Sale now through Sept 9th!

Just released today – The Girlfriend’s Guide to Simplifying Infertility eCollection – a $123 value on sale NOW for just $19.  In this collection by My Hopeful Journey (the best new infertility website to come along), you’ll get:

  • collection-image-525-x-644Surviving Infertility: Month to Month Guide – Lisa Drouillard with Guest Writer, Fran Meadows & Many Contributors ($19)
  • The Truth Behind the Secret Infertility – Fran Meadows ($10.95)
  • The Modern Girl’s Guide to Natural Fertility – Marni Hotchkiss ($15)
  • Infertility Road to Hell and Back – Azelene Williams (18.95)
  • Annual Premium Membership to My Hopeful Journey’s fertility organizer & Quick Start Guide ($60)
  • And additional Exclusive Bonus Content:
    • Infertility Summer Reading List Compilation eBook
    • Infertility Insights – Voices Shared, Lessons Learned
    • Three Simple Steps to Setting Boundaries with Your Fertile Friends Guide – Renee Wagenner
    • Three Strategies for Taking Charge of Your Fertility – Russell Davis

To celebrate this release, I’ll be featuring a summary of a few of the resources everyday AND you can buy the collection exclusively through my link below:

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Here’s the first summary of the collection:

Surviving Infertility: Month to Month Guide – Lisa Drouillard with Guest Writer, Fran Meadows & Many Contributors ($19)

This month by month survival guide is written by your virtual girlfriends, Lisa & Fran, and several cameo appearances from mind/body professionals too. We reflect on our infertility experiences, how we coped and what we learned in this guide that is organized by month and covers all of the major holidays and occasions that you must tackle on your journey. We also worked with some well-known mind/body professionals to create guided exercises that complement the monthly content. Monthly workbook pages allow you to create a custom plan to stay on track. The reference section is chock full of infertility terms, tips and tricks to surviving infertility and is a must have reference for anyone going through infertility treatment.

Contributors include: Fran Meadows – Infertility Author & Advocate, Candace & Chris from MTV’s True Life – I’m Desperate the Have a Baby & Bloggers, Joanne Verkuilen – Circle + Bloom, Helen Adrienne – Author & licensed Social Worker and certified Hypnotherapist, Molly Nichols – Mind Belly Connection, Renee Waggener – Xraordinary Fertility & Jill Wardell – Coach

Happy Reading!